Seven Steps to Inner Power
I am grateful to a patient of mine who had ME/CFS for sharing with us all her wonderfully positive approach to illness and adversities. I trust it will help many.
Finding your Inner Power
Our minds can sometimes take us into stress and anxiety if we focus too hard on how to heal the physical body, i.e. why it happened, poor me, what to do, who to see, frustration! The list goes on. But I've come up with a theory, which is helping me, of how to grow energy and help lead us back to health.
Let's all say, "I want to come out of the shadow and stand in the sunlight. I want to feel joy and a passion for life. I want to be well. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I want to participate in life, and live it, and feel it and be it, and return to wholeness." I feel if we put the same amount of time into changing our thought patterns as we do thinking about our problems, we would transform. Let's imagine a new way of being:
Step One - Appreciate everything in life
Imagine what it would be like if your home was destroyed, and you were left with nothing. So look around you at what you have and be thankful for it. Appreciate everything in life, right down to the simplest things, like the cup that holds your drink and the chair that supports your body... And that includes yourself. So bless everything, no matter how you are feeling in this moment. Be grateful for what you have, and not regret what you don't have.
Step Two - Be aware of your thought patterns...
...watch where they are taking you. They can send you spiralling down into the darkest depths, or soaring up in the blue sky. Be in control of your mind, not it in control of you. Live in the present moment, without expectation - then you won't feel let down. Let go of past events and future possibilities - it only wastes time and energy. It's not about denying what is, but not focussing too much on the negative. By bringing back the balance, we find an inner harmony. Remember, we always have a choice. What have you created with your mind?
Step Three - Smile!
Enjoy joy. Feel it through the five senses - see, hear, touch, taste, smell. It gives pleasure. It lifts your spirits and grows energy. It will 'move' in you and make you feel alive. You connect to LIFE through your senses. So, touch velvet, hear music, taste chocolate, smell roses, see the sunset, or do whatever it is you like to do. Enjoy the experience of being alive!
Step Four - Purpose and direction
What is your gift? Do what you are good at. Feel passion for your endeavours. Everyone has a gift. It doesn't matter if you compose music or write letters. Whatever it is, do it. It will empower and strengthen you. It brings satisfaction and a sense of self-worth and confidence. Once you begin to open up and use your gift, ideas and opportunities will flood in; so begin a little, and start the ball rolling! It will expand you.
Step Five - Use your imagination
What do you want? Think it. Think it NOW! Think big. Think it with an emotional passion. Think it and feel it in the body. Involve all the senses in this imagination and bring it alive. The more you want something, the more likely it is to happen. But first you have to want. And know that you'll get it.
Step Six - Growing love
What do you love the most in your life? What people, things or memories lift you? Think of that now. It may be helpful to play calming, soothing music quietly in the background. Close your eyes and think of a loving memory. It may be a person, place or a pet. Perhaps you remember a special moment once when you were on your own in nature and experienced a warm, glowing feeling of love.
Re-live that loving remembering now. Feel it enter your heart and let it expand and fill you. Once you have the love, move the energy into your entire being. See it shining within every cell in your body. It will cleanse, heal and rejuvenate you.
Step Seven - Power. Inner strength.
Life is a gift and it's not to be wasted. Reconnect to your inner power. It requires commitment. Remember, ultimately we all stand alone, so be your own friend and trust in your own self with an inner knowing that you can do it. So say to yourself, "I AM healing right now." Know it and believe it. No fear. Just love for life - your life! This is real power. It's being consciously aware in the ever-present moment with a positive conscious mind - fully participating. No worries, no anxieties, no fear - just love. Change the pattern. It won't happen overnight, but step by step we will go forward.
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